I now have two directees so I can call myself a spiritual director,  although in all honesty the word ‘director’ is an inadequate title for what I actually do  as I spend most of the time listening and the directing is more like the very occasional  gentle suggestion of things that the directee might like to experience such as a constructing a personal spiritual timeline or a trying a style of prayer.

It is however a great privilege to sit and listen to people searching their hearts for 90 minutes in a quest for a deeper understanding of their faith and certainly a vocation that I feel called to.

Interestingly I find myself  between spiritual directors and looking for a new one. More on the search in blogs to follow. Currently I am praying that one will just turn up!

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This section shamelessly pinched from the Epiphany House Website  – a wonderful resource for meetings, retreats and quiet days!  

This is an ancient ministry which is about taking time to meet with an experienced person to talk about one’s spiritual journey and prayer. Aelred of Rievaulx, a twelfth century English Cistercian monk, defines this role beautifully: ‘what happiness, what security, what joy to have someone to whom you dare speak on terms of equality as to another self; one to whom you can unblushingly make known what progress you have made in the spiritual life; one to whom you can entrust all the secrets of your heart and before whom you can place all your plans.’

People seek this ministry at different times in their lives and for various reasons. It can be a way:

  • to make better sense of one’s faith journey,
  • to find clarity and support at times of significant life choices,
  • to respond more deeply to God’s presence, perhaps by exploring new ways of prayer and meditation,
  • to discover together the cause of problems or blockages in one’s spiritual life,
  • to work through a particular spiritual issue.

Spiritual Direction or Accompaniment provides a ‘sacred space’ into which we can bring anything or nothing, in which we will be listened to without judgement or agenda, in which we are totally accepted, in which all that is said is entirely confidential.

The relationship is different in each case, as we are all different and have different needs. You can discuss your deepest thoughts and fears, about anything, aware the conversation is safe between you, God and your companion.

There are links to further information about Spiritual Direction, including some advice when finding a spiritual director, on the website of the Association for Promoting Retreats (link opens in a new page).

You may wish to incorporate a session of spiritual direction if you are visiting the house on a personal retreat. Some of our spiritual directors are also available for longer-term, regular spiritual direction. Please contact us for more details: bookings@epiphanyhouse.co.uk.

Find a Spiritual Director – look under Spiritual Direction on the Diocesan Website and fill in the forms